The Faster Times Asks: Are Dadbloggers The Most Important Feminists Online Today?
"We know that we can do what men can do, but we still don't know that men can do what women can do. That's absolutely crucial. We can't go on doing two jobs."
Longtime readers - or, really, anyone who's spent more than a few minutes browsing this site - know that we rarely take such lists seriously. We've been named to some, left off of others, and six years into it, every guy that writes for DadCentric will tell you that yes, it's nice to be acknowledged, and yes, such acknowledgement and $3.50 will get you a grande latte at Starbucks.
Making some subjective list was never really the point, and never has been. What struck me as interesting were the women who bemoaned the fact that dads were trying to crash an exclusive party, one reserved for mombloggers. That's always seemed to me to be contradictory and self-defeating. We know that dadbloggers are thought leaders when it comes to changing the way society looks at fathers - and, more important, the way that fathers looks at themselves. We know that our partners are our staunchest supporters when it comes to our desire to share the parenting load. And yet, when dads look for a seat at the Parenting Magazine/Website/Blogging table, we're greeted with apathy, indignation, or derision. If the online parenting space is a metaphorical tripod, it's one with a shorter, wobbly third leg.
Over at The Faster Times, writer Nathan Hegedus - an expat dad living in Sweden, which sounds like an equal parenting paradise - finds this a bit self-defeating: "Mom bloggers need to realize something", he writes. "Dad bloggers are your allies." (Emphasis is mine.) I'm quoted extensively in the article, but that shouldn't stop you from reading it, as Hegedus makes an excellent point about the waste and futility of creating divisions where there should be none. Oh, and that quote above? Gloria Steinem.